Why Loving, Involved Parents Need to Pay Attention to Their Instincts
Listen to the science! Throughout the Covid-19 pandemic, we have heard these words too many times to count. Anyone who did not follow the latest scientific recommendations was looked down on as foolish. But the problem was—the science kept changing, almost daily, as more was learned about this virus.
Doctors and other therapists (mental health, physical therapists, speech therapists, and others) are blessings from God. They worked long and hard to become experts on some aspect of health, and we can be grateful for that. It is so good to have professionals to talk with when we have questions about raising our children–they are partners with us in keeping our children healthy! And, while raising my six children, I almost always followed their advice. But not always. Here’s why:
Doctors and therapists don’t know everything.
They use their extensive training and knowledge to give the best recommendations they can, and we can all appreciate that. But in many ways, the human body—and particularly the human brain—is still a mystery. Humans are complex creatures created by our all-knowing God. No matter how hard we try, here on this earth we’ll never have the full knowledge of our Creator. We’ll keep learning, and the science will keep changing. It’s also important to remember that professionals in the medical field don’t live with your child every day.
Parents know their children best.
I truly believe that loving, involved parents develop a parental instinct about their children. I’ve seen it in my own family many times. Here are a few examples:
I’m not giving medical advice nor recommending that you ignore what medical professionals say!
Professionals in the medical field truly are blessings from God, and arbitrarily ignoring their recommendations would be foolish. But it would also be foolish to ignore strong parental instincts and assume that the professionals are infallible. If a professional’s recommendation about your child seems wrong to you, pray for wisdom. Then talk to that doctor or therapist about your concerns, and get a second opinion if necessary. Don’t neglect your child’s needs; get enough information either to follow the original advice or to use another responsible option to meet those needs.
I want to share something else interesting about the three children in the stories above: All three entered our family through adoption. Parental instinct isn’t just a biological benefit of giving birth. It’s a blessing from God that is helpful no matter how children enter a family.
Thank God for medical professionals. Thank him also for parental instincts. Both are from him. Pray for his wisdom and guidance to balance both blessings throughout your parenting journey.
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